Q&A Should I Cut Ties with Friends That Played a Role in My Mates Affair?

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We are 9 months from D-Day and have made great strides in our recovery thanks to AR and EMS Weekend, including the follow up to that and MFL. During my husbands affair, two couples that were both our friends knew about the affair and in fact hung out with my husband and his AP. I understand on some level that they were in the middle but feel that they might have at least stopped engaging with my husband until he stopped his behavior. Each of these friends have apologized to me and I have forgiven their involvement and I wish them the best but I cannot see any reason to continue our friendship with them. They have continued to try and involve us in their dinners etc. and have recently invited us to go for a weekend out of town with them because one man intends to propose to his girlfriend and wants us to be there. Am I being unreasonable in wanting to cut ties with them? Does my husband need to accept the consequences of his actions in placing these people in the middle? I don't want to be resented because of him losing friends, however, he treated me so badly and they stood by. Its like they smashed all of my fingers in a car door and now I'm supposed to keep putting my hand back in the door. Thank you for any perspective you have on this subject.

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