Q&A Should We Disclose Details about past Partners?

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I am the wayward spouse and our marriage was arranged. We had an amazing marriage for 18 years, then I wrecked everything. We never explored our pasts beyond normal stuff. After D-Day my husband has continued to tell me about the previous women that entered his life, that he never disclosed before. They are all innocent encounters but he is telling me about his life experiences. Which makes me feel that I should be able to share my life as well. Even though there is nothing as horrible as this betrayal and characterlessness in my past, I still don't know if I should share or not? I really want him to know me once and for all. I am done hiding and protecting my image but should I be doing it right now or wait.

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What if he’s not into opening up

Ive done the same thing, disclosed my entire past, and put myself completely out there. Yet he has never, and still won’t.
How should I handle this?
Also, if he’s still watching porn in secret than how am I supposed to ever feel like we are transparent?
And what really constitutes an officially porn addiction diagnosis?