It has been less than one month since I revealed my affair. I don't know how to handle the fact that my betrayed husband doesn't ask any questions of me. He doesn't speak to me of anything outside of household logistics. He occasionally says things that hint that he is finished with our marriage. He says that he wants to take time away for several months.

I'm afraid I've handled things in the wrong way by allowing there to be more and more silence, allowing the disconnection to solidify. Am I wrong about this? Is there something I should be doing to press toward him, or do I accept this as his way of handling the trauma of my revelations?

I know I don't deserve to have reconciliation, but I feel so desperate to try for it. I have heard that separation is practice for divorce, and so I am dreading his leaving. I want to respect whatever he needs to process and heal, but I am afraid that my inaction may close the door to the chance for reconciliation. There are some more details I feel I need to tell him about the affair, but with him expressing no desire to know I haven't known whether I should wait until he is more engaged. I am desperate for some wisdom and guidance and would appreciate anything that you can offer.