My husband's affair resulted in a child that will be born before our second child. Our first conversations post D-day with the affair partner were not beneficial for anyone. Now that my husband and I have had time to recover, we reached out to the affair partner to have a discussion about the child. However, the affair partner refuses to meet with both of us, as she believes the conversation only involves them both and no one else should be involved. My husband and I are moving forward together but we refuse to give into her personal boundary. What do we do when the affair partner refuses to cooperate about the child? We only are trying to do what is best for that child and our family.