Q&A How Do You Make Life Changing Decisions a Few Months after D-Day?

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Our 5 year old son has been accepted to two private schools for kindergarten next year. One school is near where my husband works and one is close to where we currently live. My husband and I both feel that the school near my husband’s work may be the better school for my son however that would require a big move to a place where I, the betrayed, will not have much support. Also, my husband’s affair happened at work. At this particular time, I’m not that comfortable with running into his co-workers. On the positive side it would be close to my husband’s work. He feels he could have less stress and more time with the kids and me if we choose the school near his work. How do I know it’s safe to lean so heavily on my husband as my main support so close to discovery? I want the best for my son and husband but am also worried that without enough support around me, it will be harder for me to heal and I will no longer be as able to be there for both my children and husband. My husband is also afraid for me to choose to move because as he has said, “I don’t want you to have a nervous breakdown if we move away from your support and then have that on my conscience too.” At the same time, my husband feels that the school near his work most definitely has more to offer our son.



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