Q&A What Do You Do for the Wayward Spouse's Trauma?

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We are in week 11 of EMS Online and three months post disclosure. We are making good progress and my husband is truly remorseful, regretful, and sorry for his affair. I have every faith that he is being completely honest and realized early on that he has been the victim of a very manipulative affair partner who exercised coercion, emotional, and direct blackmail from an early stage. I believe he has been traumatized by the whole experience but he is reluctant to even address this concentrating instead on my healing process as a priority. We can find no material or advice for trauma for the unfaithful spouse and I wonder if it is common for this subject to be overlooked or dismissed as less important? The whole experience has had a profound impact on him in terms of stress and fear and I really feel this needs to be addressed so he too can heal.



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Wayward Spouse's Trauma from AP

Thank you so much for this! My wife's AP coerced her into extending the affair out for way longer than it should have gone on, and caused her trauma that we have had to deal with together, without much help from the outside.

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