Q&A What Happens If I or Both My Husband and I Run into the Affair Partner in Public?

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Seven months ago I confessed to my affair that ended a decade ago. My husband has messaged the affair partner and told him he knows about what happened and kind of left it at that. I highly doubt my affair partner has told his wife about what happened. What happens if I or both my husband and I run into the affair partner in public? Obviously I hope my husband would agree to just turn and walk away. But what if we run into the affair partner and his wife and can’t dodge them for some reason. Without knowing if the affair partners wife knows about the affair, it would be super awkward. What if she wants to come up and strike up a conversation? Not another soul knows about the affair so it’s not like this was anything that went public. We have told no one. Not family or friends. I feel this is where a lot of my thoughts are lately and it’s causing me anxiety. I am so afraid one of us or both of us will run into the affair partner. Should we have a plan in mind in case this happens?



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