Expert Q&A Preview: What Is Hysterical Bonding and What Does It Mean for a Relationship in Recovery?

Please explain hysterical bonding more. What does it mean for the relationship? What does it say about the betrayed? What message does it give the unfaithful? These last 7 months of recovery has been the most passionate sex of our 22 years. I have been desiring him in a way never before and usually right after some emotional outburst, discussion, etc. Unfortunately , it's usually I who initiates which makes me feel foolish and doesn't leave me feeling desired as I really need to feel.

I know this behavior has my husband confused and he has said, I make it too easy for him as he feels he should be punished for what he did. And he knows how I've always regarded sex as a sacred act and when the fact that I want him after what he did has him questioning how much did he "break me" with his infidelity. Thanks for your insight.