Q&A At What Point Is It Unhealthy to Be Avoiding Events Because the Affair Partner May Go or Avoiding Places Because They Once Went There Together?

My husband worked for the church and had an emotional affair with his co-worker who was also a family friend. The slippery slope of friendship and infidelity behaviors started a year before they fully entered an emotional affair and I was very uneasy about this inappropriate friendship they were creating right from the start. By the time D-Day came earlier this year I had been insecure and frustrated in my marriage and with my husband’s friendship for nearly 2 and a half years. I have a lot of negative memories from this period, even more triggers since D-Day now I know the full truth of their sneaking around and living in a small town there are a lot of physical reminders on a daily basis. I wonder how you strike the balance between managing reminders and triggers while not living a life of avoidance. At what point is it unhealthy to be avoiding events because the affair partner may go or avoiding places because they once went there together?