Q&A What's the Difference between Sorrow and Regret?

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We are approaching one year since D-Day of my husband's 5 month affair. We have been doing different types of counseling and activities to heal from this. He has discovered how manipulated he was and how this affair mostly had to do with a weakness in his character and his need to be a "nice guy" and please everyone else. He has intermittently explained how low he felt about himself and what he was doing during it. He has consistently told me he is sorry for hurting me and that he never meant to do that to me. I am wondering is he just sorry I got hurt or does he really regret what he did. I fear that if I wasn't this hurt he'd be ok with it and to me that leaves me feeling like he really cared for her and really enjoyed what they did. And the problem with that for me is then he will miss it or look back at it fondly. Or is showing regret really about his needing to see his issues and being able to admit how many problems he has?



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