Q&A When Do We Leave out of Our Own Self Respect?

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My husband is now doing the work in EMSO after 8 years of this behavior while I begged & warned him to stop. These last disclosures were sooo much more than I ever expected. I feel resentful now after forgiving him over & over & truly showing him grace. When is enough, enough? I feel like I’ve lost so much self respect...like me giving him this chance again after all these years of begging is basically telling him & myself I’m not worth being faithful to. Am I not just sending the message that I’ll keep letting him have his cake & he gets to eat it too? I’m a good, attractive woman & awesome wife & could just remarry another who sees my worth. Why waste more years of my life hoping this is the last time?

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I could have written this

With just a few changes, I could have written this. I'm disgusted with him for leading me on, for continuing to appease me with empty promises, for continuing to lie and betray me time and time again... but I am even more disgusted with myself for staying and not giving up on him. I am now over years into this toxic and damaging marriage, and almost 15 years of suffering the effects of his 7 month long physical cheating and lying that caused my initial betrayal trauma. I don't want to live if it means living like this.