I am the unfaithful spouse. My question has to do with telling our kids who are 20, 22. 25. We told them a week or two after D-day so they have been keeping up with our recovery for the past 10 months. My wife tends to tell them things like, "Oh, this week was really the hardest week, even harder than the first months". So she’s not giving details, but general bad news. I don't think this is helpful to them. They are doing fairly well through it all but I think we could have spared them a lot of hurt by limiting many things. After hearing about "pretend normal", I my wife wants to be even more honest with them than she did before, and I personally don't think they need to hear things that are going to bring them down. So on one hand there is being honest and on the other hand there is pretend normal. I think knowledge can do more damage than good sometimes. So where do we draw the line in being 100% honest and on the other side realizing that this honesty will work against them? I do love the direction we are going and I do hope to get past the one year anniversary from our D-day. I myself am very hopeful and I feel this is a great opportunity to start again in building something we never had before. Thanks for all the help, AR has been a huge blessing to us. :)