I’ve enjoyed the Q&A on limerence and intrusive thoughts. They have described my situation exactly. I betrayed my wife 22 months ago and she found out right away. I’ve broken off all contact with my affair partner 20 months ago. I have committed myself to restoring my marriage. I’ve been through counseling, joined the affair recovery program, met with pastors and Stephens ministers. However, not a day has gone by that I don’t think of my affair partner. Everything reminds me of her. I feel trapped. I feel ashamed. I feel like it’s blocking me from moving forward or experiencing full restoration of my marriage. It makes me quite depressed some days. Why is this still happening? How long will it continue? How can I end it? I’m reading the Bible, praying and continuing course work. Things are much better with my wife and our marriage. I just can’t stop the intrusive thoughts. I fear that one day I’ll see her and it will start all over again.