I am the betrayed spouse. I found out about my husbands affair almost 2 years ago however it wasn't until September 11th, 2017 when I reached out to his AP that I finally had the truth, or so I thought. After many months of answering my questions and giving me the disclosure I needed, he changed his story. He now says that he embellished many details about the affair to further feed his ego. Another reason he says he did it was to somehow justify the bomb he dropped on me and our marriage and felt that only having sex with her 4 times didn't seem worth the pain he had caused. My husband and his AP worked together, so for about 7 months they communicating by sexting and meeting at the park to talk and kiss and spend time together. How do I make peace with the fact that he allowed me to suffer so much while trying to wrap my head around the initial D-Day? While one time was too many, this thought that he embellished it seems to be harder to accept and I seem to feel more betrayed and resentful. We are in EMSO but no one seems to be able to help me process this. I would appreciate any thoughts or advice you can give me.