Q&A Will I Ever Be Able to Heal and Overcome Triggers If the Affair Partner Continues to Flirt with My Husband?

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My husband had a physical affair with his coworker and D-Day was October 2019. I still battle intrusive thoughts and triggers. I thought they were getting better until about a month ago when I discovered another married co-worker he started an inappropriate relationship with. I discovered in his work email that they had been joking with each other in sexual manners. Nothing sexual was ever directly stated but it was more implied sexual innuendos between each other. He works very closely with this woman and often is on the phone for hours a day, messaging multiple times. They talk about their interests, weekend plans, etc. in between the work. My husband said he is not attracted to her, that they were joking, but agreed it was inappropriate and promised to keep it professional going forward. Recent messages show she is still making occasional inappropriate comments to him and while my husband doesn't reciprocate like he used to, she still keeps trying to go there and get a response from him. He's promised to tell me when she flirts, offered to record work phone calls, shows me their messages, but it is a trigger knowing that she is actively tempting him to engage in behavior like this. He hoped ignoring her comments would close the door to the flirting without making it awkward but it's not working. Do you think I will ever be able to heal and overcome triggers from the 1st D-Day, if she continues to flirt with him everyday?

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