Q&A (HFH) Am I Subconsciously Sabotaging my Marriage?

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I disclosed my infidelity 18 months ago and my wife and I have committed to working through our issues. Each of us loves the other more than ever before but since disclosure I haven't overcome some old behavior issues, such as lying. We have seen a pattern in which my wife and I are doing real well in our marriage, full of harmony and love but at some point I will do something to sabotage that harmony. This is not a random occurrence but a pattern that you can almost count on. It is as if I can't handle all of the love and harmony we have and I do something almost without thought to destroy it. Is there a reason that I am doing this? Subconsciously, can I not handle it, so I do something to bring us back to a status of disharmony? This is a worrisome behavior. What is happening and how can I stop it? Thank you.



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