Q&A What is the Difference Between being Angry and Assertive?

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I am the hurt spouse.

My wife and I have just completed Week 9 (Married for Life) Anger management. As I read back through the chapter for Anger Management in our EMSO book, it describes three distinct states of anger. Aggressive, Assertive, Passive.

I am looking for an example of how an Aggressive person can become Assertive. I struggle with the concepts as I've always viewed assertive people as being aggressive in getting their voice heard.

My wife and I use the example of a school teacher. Most teachers must be assertive in the class room in order for students to learn without letting chaos rule. Those teachers use different methods and techniques to keep the peace and, hopefully, a stable learning environment.

Can you give me an example of what is meant by being assertive?



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