There are so many similarities with how my situation was. I would say by keeping the door open for him you are facilitating his abusing you both. Give him an ultimatum and mean it. And know if he is lying to her their relationship is doomed - it sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it. I told my husband he could leave but would never see me again as if he left I would then only act in my best interests- it was all or nothing and that horrified him. In the end he went to live (when I asked him to leave) with the AP and had to to realize all he lost - and now he’s finally left her Physically and emotionally I’m open to a new marriage with him. You are thinking too far ahead re your daughter- you have enough to think of today so stick to that. While you are married it’s not appropriate for your daughter to see the AP so take comfort for today and don’t anticipate pain for the years ahead or you will be letting fear and pain rule you when you need to be open to Gods healing love.

There are so many similarities with how my situation was. I would say by keeping the door open for him you are facilitating his abusing you both. Give him an ultimatum and mean it. And know if he is lying to her their relationship is doomed - it sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it. I told my husband he could leave but would never see me again as if he left I would then only act in my best interests- it was all or nothing and that horrified him. In the end he went to live (when I asked him to leave) with the AP and had to to realize all he lost - and now he’s finally left her Physically and emotionally I’m open to a new marriage with him. You are thinking too far ahead re your daughter- you have enough to think of today so stick to that. While you are married it’s not appropriate for your daughter to see the AP so take comfort for today and don’t anticipate pain for the years ahead or you will be letting fear and pain rule you when you need to be open to Gods healing love.