I'm trying to take the power back in my life as a betrayed, after months of trickle truth and deceit. He is living with his AP. My husband keeps trying to maintain control by shaming me and accusing me. I sought a lawyer’s counsel for both divorce and bankruptcy. My spouse found the paperwork for the bankruptcy and is now angry. How do I maintain my stand in my power and not tolerating his behavior, but also trying to create a good co-parent relationship? I feel like I'm always mis-stepping right into being manipulated to his way.