Q&A Do You Have Suggestions for My Situation?

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I am currently in HH as well as counseling. It has been a year since I confronted my husband, he stated he loved me but wasn’t in love with me. He didn’t leave that day. He stayed a few weeks until I asked him to leave. I didn’t want to, but he stated he didn’t want to give me false hope. He didn’t want to be married and never wanted to be married again. He was saying things that were totally out of character. He said he knows all things are possible with God, but he just doesn’t want it. He refused counseling, saying we tried it all. We have never been to professional counseling during our 19 years of marriage. He filed for divorce a month later and we are still in the proceedings. I would ask if there was anyone else, he would state “no”. I had my suspicions. I found some information and it confirmed that indeed inappropriate things had happened. My greatest fear. The very thing I questioned him about before we started dating. He knew my insecurities and the anxiety experienced, especially after the first DD about 2 years into our marriage. My husband is now saying he is gay. He has even told our 2 children. I’m still in shock! Months ago, he stated to me that if I were to ever have an affair he wouldn’t want to know. What? How does a person who lives a Christian life in front of others, was an Assoc. Pastor, have a Christian Counseling degree, now believe it’s okay to live a way they once said was wrong? I never had a negative view of marriage or men until now. I’ve yet speak with anyone who has experienced this. I know I can’t be the only one. Do you have any suggestions that may help? I’m so thankful for HH and all the materials available through AR.

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