Q&A What Am I Doing Wrong Here?

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Question: 

In our lesson on codependency I learned that I can't control my husband but I can share my feelings and expectations. And in our call we discussed that what I need from him is regret, remorse, and empathy. Can you please tell me what this looks like in a practical sense being walked out? Maybe a sample script? When I share my pain and expectations my husband will say OK, or will give me a hug, or will say “I’m sorry for your pain." I can't stand when he says that because to me it's not accepting any responsibility at all. I have told him this and asked him to please word it differently but he tells me I'm just focusing on semantics and being controlling. We have made a lot of progress since he ended the affair in June but to the best of my knowledge he still has never admitted that what he did was wrong and when I bring things up and push too hard he tells me “you need to figure this out in a real hurry." What am I doing wrong? And what should I be doing?

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