Q&A Is Forgiveness my Issue?

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What to ask? This week's lesson was "forgiveness." Not sure I've done this, in particular the part about "...giving up the possibility of a better past." I was one of those who "forgave" quickly, cause surely that will make everything "better," right? I also asked about the wedding ring. My husband's 2 months on the couch is over, and he's back in our bed. He's trying, truly, though I would love something bigger than "baby steps," but I'll take what I can get. I just told him that I oscillate back and forth between this wretched past, and an uncertain future, failing to revel in the present day. It's an awful, unfaithful place to be, but I fear I get stuck here often. I skimmed through future chapters and I'm definitely the quote on page 182, "Your pain that is connected to the past will likely increase your fear of the future." I certainly fear his relapse, and I fear being stuck in a bad or boring marriage because it was the "right thing to do." Another word that gets thrown around in counseling is "potential." I'm learning to hate that word. Do I teach my daughter she can "potentially" have a great marriage if her husband is only unfaithful to her? How do healthy married couples do it? Infidelity can't be the recipe?? Before I get further into rant mode, I'm thinking forgiveness is my issue...with my husband and sadly with God. Sorry, not really a question.



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