Q&A How Can I Help My Husband Understand It’s Not about Him and His Pain?

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I discovered about a month ago that my husband had an affair for 7 months with one of our friends. He confessed and is remorseful and he wants to work on our marriage. The husband of the affair partner who was also friends with us is very enraged against my husband. He was calling my husband requiring answers because he didn’t trust that his wife is telling the truth. My husband didn’t want to talk to him. My husband sent him an apology message but our friend didn’t take it well. He is sending my husband emails and texts calling him vulgar names and accusing him of stuff he didn’t do (being interested in minors). My husband is in a lot of pain and he feels I am not on his side and not support him. I feel he makes it too much about him. How can I heal when he is concentrating on him? I don’t know how to be supportive? Am I being selfish?



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