Q&A How Can I Make Sure That the past Doesn't Ruin the Present?

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Our situation is different than many others here. We have been married for 28 years. My wife and I have had a great marriage for the last 7 or 8 years. The last 5 have been absolutely amazing. I never thought marriage could be so good! Sex life unbelievable! But, I just found out about two of my wife’s affairs that happened with two of my close associates. The first not even a year after our marriage with my boss. The other happened a few years later with my best friend. This one lasted 13 years and included no more than 60 sexual encounters at cheap hotel rooms and once in my room on my bed! I have to admit that she is NOT that person anymore, but what do I do with all this painful stuff? Really could use some advice. I feel like I am ruining a good thing we have right now because I am flooding and hurting so bad on how she treated me back then. I sure wish I could hurry up and get through it. We are both going through the individual spouse courses.



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