Q&A How Could He Go from Begging Me to Stay to This?

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My D-Day was about a 1.5 years ago. The truth of my situation unfolded in truth trickling for three years prior and ended in his diagnosis of sex addiction. Supposedly no further behavior since then. When it finally all came out in the middle of isolation in the pandemic, I experienced anger and rage like I never have before. My partner showed remorse and wanted to heal. I wasn’t ready. Now I am, and he has pulled completely away. He says he sees me differently now and he seems permanently steeped in intimacy avoidance. He’s cut off all counseling or effort. He hates me and is cruel if I discuss anything and tells me to “tell your class. I can’t heal you. I’m broken. There is no future. This is no longer a relationship.” This is refueling my anger and I am crippled with depression. Is all hope lost now? He says it is. I feel like a bigger fool than ever to fight for this alone now. How did we go from him begging me to stay to this?



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