Q&A How Do I Deal with Continued Fantasy Thinking?

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I have been having fantasies about contacting the affair partner’s private school where she works as a teacher. I want to inform them of who they have had working for them over a 7 year period, someone who's practiced adultery. She is someone who has lied to their family and lied to their children for 7 long years. Someone who has claimed they are married and has never been married but has involved themselves sexually with married men. If I acted out these fantasies then she would lose her job. I am happy where I find myself with my husband in the here and now but sometimes I get entangled with these fantasy thoughts of retribution. Please help me cast an objective light on these intrusive thoughts.



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