Q&A How Do I Handle This Conflict between What He’s Saying and What He’s Doing?

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My husband says he is willing to do whatever it takes to save our marriage, and that he wants our family to stay together. However is actions tell a completely different story. He is not willing to be open about answering more questions about how long things had been going on, how many people, etc. He is not willing to be open about his Hope for Healing course and won’t share anything or even tell me the topic of what they are discussing that week. He’s not willing to pursue individual counseling or marriage counseling. When I get emotional or flood he just sits there and doesn’t say anything or do anything to comfort despite me telling him I want him to just hold me and let me be emotional. How do I handle this conflict between what he’s saying and what he’s doing? How do I focus on myself and my healing while he is doing nothing? It feels so scary to abandon “us” and only focus on myself.



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