How do I heal when I have no details of my wife's affair? She cheated in 1988, I found out in 2009. She says she doesn't remember anything, just that she "did something she shouldn't have done". The affair partner (her boss) confirmed to me through email that they had oral sex 5-6 times, my wife says maybe once. Other than that, I have no information of how it started, conversations, nothing. How do you move forward with no answers? This is one of my biggest hang ups to moving forward.