As I read the community forum I’m so sad to hear how many betrayed are still experiencing the lies, deceit and betrayal of the unfaithful when they are supposedly working on recovery. Many have or are participating in your online programs or are in other types of counseling. I can’t understand why the unfaithful continues to inflict so much pain on their spouse and families. If they can’t give up their affair partner or are ambivalent why don’t they just walk away from the marriage instead of playing games. In fact if they were so unhappy in their marriages in the first place why didn’t they just talk to their spouse to begin with. Their selfishness is incomprehensible. I know I’m trying to understand the mind of the unfaithful which may be impossible but I appreciate your insight. Thanks.