Help me understand why someone who always seemed positive, who didn’t show signs anything was wrong, who acted like we had a good relationship and marriage goes and has a 10 month affair? And now we are in recovery, he is all in and wants to fix the marriage, but how can I ever know that things are real and true? Before was the same way, always so positive, always seemed that he was happy. He is really good at keeping me calm. In fact I know that is how he also kept his affair partner for 10 Months. He hides his emotions so well that he is a very strong positive person that can get through anything. I used to think that included avoiding an affair. Thanks