Since 2011, my husband has been using swinger sites, meeting random people for sex, and participating in group sex, all of these unbeknownst to me. I was able to obtain the information from the latest AP and a detective. I am horrified to say the least; he was really living a second life while traveling from work. My husband appears to be remorseful, foremost wants to save the marriage and doing individual counseling. I want to believe it’s true but he also tells me “if I divorce him he would go back to his ways because he will be alone and fall back”. Is this a red flag? Is he only doing this because of our marriage?