Q&A Is it Normal to Relive the Days During the Affair to Rewrite History?

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Is it normal to go back and emotionally re-live the days/events during the time the affair was happening? We are 8 months out from D-Day. My husband’s affair began in October of last year. Through the healing hand of God, we have both taken huge leaps of faith both personally and in our marriage and are committed to the healing process. However, lately with the awareness of the affair starting last October, I find myself looking at my calendar from LAST year and "re-living" the normal days and special family events all over again through the lens of what was actually happening (affair).Strange as it may sound, I believe that possibly by experiencing these events with REALITY allows me to re write the story in the light of the TRUTH? It is a gut-wrenching process and at times brings those past emotions into my present state- Is this a healthy exercise towards healing? Or a sadistic trick I am playing on myself? At times it feels like a little of both and not just for me, but for my husband also. He is supportive but struggles to understand the benefit in doing this. Can you please advise?

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My Question Exactly!

Thanks for answering this question! I struggle with this also 8 months out from DDay awith affair starting in August.

My Question Exactly!

Thanks for answering this question! I struggle with this also 8 months out from DDay awith affair starting in August.

My Question Exactly!

Thanks for answering this question! I struggle with this also 8 months out from DDay awith affair starting in August.

My Question Exactly!

Thanks for answering this question! I struggle with this also 8 months out from DDay awith affair starting in August.