Q&A Should I Set Boundaries with Friends during Recovery?

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I’m 8 months from D-Day. When I found out I told a small group of girlfriends. I gave them a sanitized version but needed someone to help me get through the days. They were great and supportive. We have been a tight group for many years. I am currently trying to work on marriage and myself and basically taking one day at a time. The problem is when we are invited out with that group I feel triggered. I feel jealous of their “good” husbands and feel shame for being with mine. I want to defend myself and shout “you don’t know all he did” but also done want to share anymore about any of it. When I am out alone with the girlfriends I usually don’t feel as bad as when their “perfect” relationships aren’t on display. I also get angry because yet another part of my life that my husband destroyed. Do I abandon them for a while or press through it hoping I feel better one day. Is this normal?



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