Q&A Should We Separate?

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I'm a betrayed husband; my wife is in a 3 year affair. We have been married for 28 years. D-Day was December 2015. A few weeks after discovery I decided I would stay and fight for our marriage and I still continue to do so. I have made some significant changes in my life since then and have addressed the issues that I believe helped bring us to the affair. She on the other hand has not accepted responsibility for her actions nor shown remorse or empathy. We have been separated now for 2 months. She tells me she loves me and she misses me but refuses to talk about reconciling or to discuss anything about the affair so far. I'm running out of patience and feel like a door mat. I do love her and still want things to work but I'm just tired of the rejection and hurt. Should I back out of where I'm at by having no contact? Should I write her a letter explaining that I'm being forced to let go of her and wish her well? Also I want to add that my oldest daughter has cheated on her husband of 6 years. My youngest daughter’s husband cheated on her and has a new born baby with the affair partner. Now they are divorced and my son’s wife has had an emotional affair with a coworker!!! I'm sick and tired of the deceit and pain for all. I'm in HH and really needing some audience in how I should conduct myself. I am a Christian and just having trouble seeing what God wants me to do.



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