Q&A Is There Any Hope for Recovery in Our Situation?

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My husband struggles with depression and has a lot of past trauma that he has refused to deal with. He compartmentalizes it and this has been his coping mechanism for years. He is doing this now with the affair. We both want to repair our marriage and we are making great strides toward improving all other aspects of our relationship. But when I express my pain to him, he shuts down, and continues to stay shut down for several days afterward. I want to be clear that I am not berating him, or bringing up the affair every day. He has given me full disclosure and now tells me that continuing to talk about it is just reopening wounds. I am feeling shamed for expressing my feelings, and I find myself becoming resentful. I am currently taking Harboring Hope in an attempt to work through my pain. Is there any hope for recovery in our situation? I feel like he isn't going to change on this issue. We are 5 months out from discovery and the affair ended that same day.



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