How long should I give my husband to respond to my request about getting help and how do I get him to move forward out of his ambivalence? My husband and I have been separated for 3 years. We both have had individual counseling but no help together really. He has continued to see his AP but doesn't want to get a divorce either. The ambivalence is hard on both of us. I recently told him if we are going to stay married we need to get expert help together. I feel we are robbing our children of a family they deserve and ourselves of a marriage we deserve. We are living in limbo. So how long should I give him to respond to my request and Is there anything I can do to get him to move forward?