Q&A What Do You Do When the Infidelity Involves Family Members?

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My husband had an emotional and physical affair with his co-worker for about a year, whom he still works with. The affair ended with me discovering the affair earlier this year. I learned that a few years before this, he had a one-time tryst with a co-worker from his previous job. When I was trying to cope with this information, I confided in my sister who revealed to me he had been making several passes at her over the years, including calling her, sending her a lingerie set and requesting a picture, offering her massages, and bringing up inappropriate topics of conversation. She claims she didn't engage these passes but was concerned if she told me about it would cause too much turmoil. She’s was also in her early/mid-twenties at the time and felt overwhelmed with how to deal the situation. When I confronted him, he admitted it was true. I'm not sure how to cope with this information, or go about a no contact rule. I'm having a difficult time working through forgiving this; him still working with his affair partner until he finds new employment; my affair recovery; and a damaged familial relationship. I feel I must now choose sides and this is making me withdraw from my family. I’m so angry he crossed this line.



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