Q&A What Should I Do with His Lapse in Judgement?

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My husband and I have attended the EMS Weekend. He went to an in-patient sex addiction treatment center and seems to be working his program. However, I recently discovered he had been communicating with one of his previous affair partners, seemingly to convince her to pay him back for a large loan for a house she bought in her name only. I had discovered he had loaned her this money during their affair so I employed an attorney to attempt to get her to sign a promissory note so we had more than her word to pay it back. She has admitted to me it was a loan with interest. My latest discovery is that he has been communicating with her while we have been in recovery to try to get her to sign the promissory note in order to avoid a counter suit by her for sexual harassment as she was an employee of his. I am concerned my staying sanctions this deceitful behavior. He admits what he did is wrong but that he is still in recovery and it was a lapse in judgment. Oh what a tangled mess he has woven for us! He was a serial affairist in his previous marriage as well. Is there hope?



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