I understand your situation, my husband suggested similar thing to me at one point in last month. Your D day is similar to mine and I filled for divorce too and just yesterday put a hold on divorce. He did suggest “dating” me and similar things you mentioned. I will say something that seems to really have helped him is his recent engaging with all the Affair Recovery content. I signed up for Harboring Hope last week, it hasn’t started yet and he is signing up for men’s group tomorrow. I needed a plan as welll to move forward and we one now. It’s a “recovery” plan that has 4 elements to it. We have both done biblical counseling & meet with pastor but I’ve come to realize that this road we are all on needs special care from people who have walked journey and succeeded. I would suggest to your husband that he joins men’s group and you both sign up for EMS online weekend. Together do the 7 day free Bootcamp. We are doing Bootcamp on weds & Sundays till comolete. It only takes us about an hour and a half. Plan stressful conversations. We are not out of the woods but a plan has allowed me to be at peace. My husband wants to create “date” like environment as well and yet has had an aggressive AP. The whole thing has seemed crazy bc we have been a committed Christian family, raising our children in the faith. I have grown in my faith with this trauma and realize there is a very real spiritual battle happening around us. Eph6. I’d be happy to hear how your journey continues.

I understand your situation, my husband suggested similar thing to me at one point in last month. Your D day is similar to mine and I filled for divorce too and just yesterday put a hold on divorce. He did suggest “dating” me and similar things you mentioned. I will say something that seems to really have helped him is his recent engaging with all the Affair Recovery content. I signed up for Harboring Hope last week, it hasn’t started yet and he is signing up for men’s group tomorrow. I needed a plan as welll to move forward and we one now. It’s a “recovery” plan that has 4 elements to it. We have both done biblical counseling & meet with pastor but I’ve come to realize that this road we are all on needs special care from people who have walked journey and succeeded. I would suggest to your husband that he joins men’s group and you both sign up for EMS online weekend. Together do the 7 day free Bootcamp. We are doing Bootcamp on weds & Sundays till comolete. It only takes us about an hour and a half. Plan stressful conversations. We are not out of the woods but a plan has allowed me to be at peace. My husband wants to create “date” like environment as well and yet has had an aggressive AP. The whole thing has seemed crazy bc we have been a committed Christian family, raising our children in the faith. I have grown in my faith with this trauma and realize there is a very real spiritual battle happening around us. Eph6. I’d be happy to hear how your journey continues.

I understand your situation, my husband suggested similar thing to me at one point in last month. Your D day is similar to mine and I filled for divorce too and just yesterday put a hold on divorce. He did suggest “dating” me and similar things you mentioned. I will say something that seems to really have helped him is his recent engaging with all the Affair Recovery content. I signed up for Harboring Hope last week, it hasn’t started yet and he is signing up for men’s group tomorrow. I needed a plan as welll to move forward and we one now. It’s a “recovery” plan that has 4 elements to it. We have both done biblical counseling & meet with pastor but I’ve come to realize that this road we are all on needs special care from people who have walked journey and succeeded. I would suggest to your husband that he joins men’s group and you both sign up for EMS online weekend. Together do the 7 day free Bootcamp. We are doing Bootcamp on weds & Sundays till comolete. It only takes us about an hour and a half. Plan stressful conversations. We are not out of the woods but a plan has allowed me to be at peace. My husband wants to create “date” like environment as well and yet has had an aggressive AP. The whole thing has seemed crazy bc we have been a committed Christian family, raising our children in the faith. I have grown in my faith with this trauma and realize there is a very real spiritual battle happening around us. Eph6. I’d be happy to hear how your journey continues.

I understand your situation, my husband suggested similar thing to me at one point in last month. Your D day is similar to mine and I filled for divorce too and just yesterday put a hold on divorce. He did suggest “dating” me and similar things you mentioned. I will say something that seems to really have helped him is his recent engaging with all the Affair Recovery content. I signed up for Harboring Hope last week, it hasn’t started yet and he is signing up for men’s group tomorrow. I needed a plan as welll to move forward and we one now. It’s a “recovery” plan that has 4 elements to it. We have both done biblical counseling & meet with pastor but I’ve come to realize that this road we are all on needs special care from people who have walked journey and succeeded. I would suggest to your husband that he joins men’s group and you both sign up for EMS online weekend. Together do the 7 day free Bootcamp. We are doing Bootcamp on weds & Sundays till comolete. It only takes us about an hour and a half. Plan stressful conversations. We are not out of the woods but a plan has allowed me to be at peace. My husband wants to create “date” like environment as well and yet has had an aggressive AP. The whole thing has seemed crazy bc we have been a committed Christian family, raising our children in the faith. I have grown in my faith with this trauma and realize there is a very real spiritual battle happening around us. Eph6. I’d be happy to hear how your journey continues.