Q&A Where Do I Go from Here?

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After having an emotional affair for 1 1/2 years with a 70 year old woman, my 77 year old husband admitted it, said he didn't want to live with me anymore, packed his car with some of his things, and within two weeks of disclosure had driven 2,000 miles to this woman's home and is currently living with her. He even took the cat. I have not heard one word from him since he left three weeks ago. He wrote one message to daughter that he had arrived. I have not contacted him. He left no physical address after repeated requests. Said phone was enough. We never really talked about much of anything. Didn't even cover the 1 1/2 year of living in deception with thousands of phone calls and texts each month to AP while going through the motions in our marriage. Half his clothes, personal items, etc. are still at the house. All our finances are still intact and entwined. He doesn't seem to be bothering those. He left a daughter and her family (grandchildren) as well. Basically, he fled and abandoned us although it must have been planned for some point. I don't know where to go from here. There is very little written or discussed about a completely absent partner in the Recovery Library that I have found. Of course, I'm working on my own recovery, but am lost in this awful void!



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