We are 3 months passed D-Day. My husband had an emotional affair with his ex. He says he does not know why he did it and has no feeling for her. He says he was not thinking during the affair but now that the switch turned on and he hates what he has done and regrets the whole thing. We are both in individual therapy and marriage counseling. He is taking full responsibility and he does everything I ask. But why can’t I believe him? I keep on thinking he is only with me for the kids and he may still have feeling for her. He denies any feelings for her and says even during the affair he still loved me and never wanted to leave me. But why can’t I believe him? I struggle with insecurity and am always on high alert to catch him doing something wrong. Please help as I feel I am sabotaging our recovery.