My husband has had another affair, this is the third one that I know of, with the same person in the last 14 years. It is his ex-girlfriend from when he was 17 years old we are in our fifties now. Every time we go through the same thing, I find out and he wants me back, promises me the moon and stars, we both go through therapy, we manage to put the relationship back together and then a couple of years later we start the story again. Why is he so stuck on the women then never wants her as soon as I find out? How am I ever going to feel safe with this going on every couple of years?