Q&A Am I To Believe He No Longer Struggles?

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Hi Rick. My husband is a sex addict; discovery a year ago. He committed to SAA and therapy consistently and he is making good progress. Over the past year, twice I discovered slips -- both under hi unusual stress situations. The first slip was 3 months in and he had written an email to a prostitute soliciting service. The second time was 2 months ago and I found he was browsing a prostitution site. He states in both instances he had no intention of following thru and in the second, he was only on line for a few minutes before he realized what a stupid thing he was doing and stopped. I believe him about the second one. We are doing EMSO (week 9) and I have realized that I need to provide "safety" for discussion of his struggles and his ability to talk with me will be key for his recovery and my sense of safety. We talk about this a lot and I have made some real changes and he states that he thinks that he could now tell me if there were problems. My problem is that he says that he really has no struggles or major temptation or urges. He has never told me about any struggles and everything has been discovered by my efforts. I really need to feel that I can believe him as I can't live on hyperarousal anymore. Am I to believe him? What am I to do?

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