Q&A Am I Depriving Myself of True Healing in the Long Term If We Are Using This Method to Cope?

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My husband and I have been married 11 years. His infidelity was discovered about 6 months ago. We have been through two months of couples counseling and now are doing EMS Online. We have 3 children under the age of 12 and so I cannot do any recovery work or even cry during the day. Night time is when I process and grieve. There are many nights when I don't get any sleep at all. I feel my husband is genuinely remorseful over the affair. He tries to help me on these nights by comforting me, and waking up to answer my questions. EMS Online recommends that questions and conversations about the affair go on no loner than about 15-20 minutes, but our conversations often go over an hour. And we often make love afterward. When we do, I feel I can finally let go and get some sleep. Is this a healthy way to cope? Or is it co-dependent? Am I depriving myself of true healing in the long term if we are using this method to cope?



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