Q&A Am I Making Too Much of the Words My Mate Uses?

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I feel that my husbands first response is always in a positive nature when we discuss the affair or the affair partner. He says I’m too stuck on the words, that I’m reading too much into it, and then he’ll apologize for his choice of words and use new ones. We have been through counseling, EMS Weekend, and can clearly identify how manipulated he was on a drunken night away. Yet he says he was “intrigued” by her calling him names and wanted to find out more about her and why she would do that. To me “blindsided” makes more sense without giving her or the situation an attractive appealing allure as intrigued does. Am I making too much of the words or are they telling how he truly feels and continues to see his affair partner and the affair?



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