I'm struggling to believe that my marriage could ever be a safe place. Intention means a lot to me. I believe that there will always be people in this world, who are not our spouse, that we find attractive. It is my position that when anyone encounters an attractive person who isn't their spouse that they mentally acknowledge the person is attractive and move on with life. I find it unacceptable to go out of ones way to seek out attractive people, porn, sensual material, dating sites, strip clubs, and hookers. Although this list is not exhaustive and exists on a continuum, I'm simply not okay with any action that is taking step toward any of these things and away from the fidelity of our marriage. Am I being unreasonable? I don't feel that I am; this is the respect I give my husband. This was the expectation disused and agreed to prior to ever getting married. My husband, now, says this is expecting perfection. I don't agree. To me, expecting perfection would be the expectation that he never have a temptation in the first place. I'm talking about taking actions that I find unacceptable. If I am being unreasonable should I expect some degree of infidelity regardless of the man?