My husband and I are 7 months out from D-Day of his emotional affair with a woman from another state, which was 3 days after our 20th anniversary. Upon confrontation he refused to talk to me except to ask if I wanted him to leave. In my shock, I said yes, he should leave. The next morning he immediately called his AP, packed his things and left after telling me he had been miserable for years. I was unaware of this. He continued contact with her throughout the day and late into the night. He claims that he was then unable to sleep and realized what he had done and how wrong it was. He says he ended it with her the next day, although it took 6 phone calls to do it. He did not contact me for a week, and then was very defensive. This has been the most traumatic part for me, and I am trying to understand what it means. He claims he cannot remember why he acted the way he did, or the conversations he had with her to end the affair. He is very remorseful and is doing all the right things. We did EMSO, both have an IC, and see an EFT therapist together. I cannot let go of his actions after discovery, and am stuck in trying to move past it. Can you offer any insight that might help?