Q&A He Failed the Polygraph. Now What?

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Hi Rick, My husband and I attended EMS weekend. I felt we had come a long way and we had some good momentum from the weekend. However, Monday morning, right before we caught our flight home, he failed the polygraph. This was devastating because a huge part of our struggle has been my lack of trust of having full disclosure thus far. After he failed the polygraph, he came forward with new disclosures that he said he didn't bring up because he thought they weren't relevant. I was so angry because he had an opportunity to give me the gift of trust so I could move forward in my healing, and that was crushed. Despite the new information that he gave me, I am now back in the exact same spot I was before. That is, not believing that he has given me full disclosure and feeling like I can't move forward without fully understanding the situation. Since then he reluctantly said he would look into taking another polygraph after the holidays. However, he's made no effort in actually making this happen, and of course it was my idea. In addition, I am having a very hard time being intimate with him until I know whom I am being intimate with. So now I find I'm back in a position of constant fear of the unknown and now a complete disconnect intimacy wise with a man who doesn't seem overly motivated to change either of those things. What do you suggest?



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