Affair Recovery has been an invaluable resource for me personally the past nine months. I am however struggling with an issue I can't seem to find anything on. My husband has always been and remains "the nice guy" in the family. He worked out of town for 20 years so it was pretty easy for him to maintain that persona. Now that he's home, as we move through recovery, I'm resentful that he still keeps this "nice guy" routine up in front of others and even to me when he's admitted to being very consumed by anger and resentment. His constant over the top positivity not only downplays our circumstances but also puts me in a negative light and makes me feel guilty when Im somber and silent. I miss being happy and free from the crushing weight of this pain. How can I channel my own genuine positivity and stop being concerned or insulted by his behaviors or attitudes?