Q&A How Can I Implement Boundaries More Effectively?

I still struggle with implementing boundaries. I know what they are and what they're for: they're meant to keep me safe rather than to control the other person. And I wholeheartedly abide by this. But for some reason, when it comes to consequences of boundary violations, I am stumped. The only consequence I seem to revert to is separation or just getting into a big shouting match, and I'm tired to always jumping to that for every boundary. Also, I'm starting to take myself less seriously whenever I default to these. What are some examples of consequences that are reasonable and doable? For example, what is a good consequence for failing to check in with me while traveling? I don't think this merits separation, but I don't know what is a good alternative, especially for repeat offences of this violation.